Back in the 1970's Women's
Lib was vocal about how women could have it all; marriage, career, and family.
Well I never wanted ANY of
that! I wasn’t buying what they were selling. It sounded like a combination of
propaganda, brain-washing, and acid eye wash to me. And it still does!
I’ve never held a job that
didn’t feel like slavery. And I’ve always felt that a husband and family were
life’s booby prize. Just one of those alone was bad enough, but combined, it seemed
an unfathomable life of misery. SURELY THERE HAD TO BE ANOTHER CHOICE!
Back when I worked full
time, I was constantly exhausted. I woke up tired and went to bed tired. I was
tired of being tired. The work didn’t enrich my life, it emptied it. And I
didn't have a family and house to maintain on top of that. To my mind, that’s a
donkey's life! Sorry, no thanks! It boggles my mind that women buy into this
without resistance.
Employed or not, women usually
get stuck doing the bulk of household chores. I’ve found that maintaining a
house in itself is almost a full time job even without a family.
1970’s glamour gal Farrah
Fawcett had it written into her CHARLIE’S ANGEL contract that she had to be
home in time to cook dinner for her (then) husband Lee Majors. -- With all the
money this woman was raking in, I don’t understand why she even had to see her
kitchen! I think maybe Lee should have prepared his own meals or at least
ordered take-out! I’m not surprised this marriage ended in divorce.
I’m a lifelong single woman.
But if I had a husband tell me to go out and get a job, I’d tell him OK, but
first I want a live-in maid and cook, otherwise no deal. I’m already employed
cleaning the house, ironing your shirts, washing your stinky underwear, running
errands and cooking your damn meals. And I want a raise; you go find a better
job! – We’d probably end up divorced.
I knew of husbands back in
the 50’s and 60’s that turned their entire paychecks over to their wives.
Admittedly not so in our family, but my mother was a stay-at-home wife who
frequently hired maids. Had you told her she was unfulfilled because she didn’t
have an outside career, she probably would have laughed in your face!
Of course if a woman wants a
career and a man would prefer to be a full-time housekeeper that arrangement can
work, provided the guy has the stamina and could do a good job.
However, if I had a family,
plus a job, you would be hearing about me in the news. I’d be like that Andrea
Yates who snapped and murdered her 5 children because she just couldn’t take it
anymore. The only difference between her and me is that I’d have snuffed out
that husband as well. Remember Andrea was a stay-at-home mom, too! How can
anyone believe that being a housewife is a free ride!!!
I’ll admit that Women’s Lib
has done a lot of good for women. A man and woman working the same job should
receive equal pay, UNLESS one is a better worker. Also a woman (or man) should
never be forced into tolerating any form of abuse, whether it be mental or
physical.
But Women’s Lib has done
equally as much damage. Personally, I don’t want to be reduced to being a beast
of burden, nor a lumpy man. It was Women’s Lib that knocked women off their
pedestal. Yeah, yeah, I’ve heard the argument that it’s as limiting as any
small place. -- Bullcrap! I notice that women who talk like that don’t deserve
to be up there in the first place! Way too many people confuse liberty with license;
as a result society continues to unravel.
I recall back when women
entered the workforce in droves. Inflation skyrocketed! It was at this time it
became nearly impossible to get by on just one income. Women were forced out of
the home whether they wanted to be or not. Friends confessed they preferred to
be stay-at-home moms, but were unable for financial reasons.
However, others could not
wait to get out! Many complained they got bored waiting for the dryer to go
off. -- Good grief, I can find 20 things to occupy my time! However I was bored
out of my skull typing up bills, answering phones and filling out paperwork.
Even the thought of going to the office depressed me. Ugh, don’t get me started
on all that co-worker drama! I’ve always found others draining.
It’s not a one size fits all
world! I’m sick of Women’s Libbers and others dictating to me what I should
want and how I should think. I don’t have a head for business or figures. I
admire women who do, but I don’t, so naturally it’s not the way I care to spend
my short span of time on this planet.
I believe in reincarnation,
but what if I’m wrong, what if this is all there is?
I love the solitary life. Writing
is the only type of work I actually enjoy. It gives me a sense of fulfillment
and is the kind of job I can live with; unfortunately the fruits of my labors
are peanuts. So it’s more of a passion than career. I would like to get into
something else at least on a part-time basis for income. I’m exploring other
avenues.
Of course many women will
tell you they MUST have both a career and family. If that works for them,
wonderful!!! It’s just not MY cup of cappuccino. I would be unable to breathe. Call
me lazy, selfish, or call me a horse's ass, or anything you will. But to me, that
kind of life is the modern equivalent of a corset.
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